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Coverage from our showcase from the Hilton Manchester with a live audience.

Media coverage:

Manchester Evening News Article with Tanya Bardsley October 2017 (Click on the photo to read the full article)

Tanya with her life coach

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Are you at the end of your tether right now with C

Are you at the end of your tether right now with Corona?

Like me, you are probably at the end of your patience with the whole situation especially as we cross the 6 month threshold of what's becoming our new normal.

According to research, this is our most vulnerable time. It's the time when we give up hope and depression begins to set in.

I say 'up yours' to the latest restrictions and hopelessness!

The photo above is a throw back from my son being a baby and it captures a really special bond between us. This reminds me of what is important and why I get out of bed eat morning. Each time I look at the picture it makes me smile and lifts my mood.

I still believe that there is hope but it won't come in the form of stoic leadership from any of our nations MP's.

Stand up for yourself, accept that we have to share our Covid world, and find ways to live your lives, work and stay mentally strong.

What can you do to lift your mood when it is low?

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Ever been on completely different pages with someo

Ever been on completely different pages with someone without realising until its blown out of proportion?

Miscommunication is still one of the major sticking points for any relationship but it is the comprehension of the intention that invoke our emotions.

Does your emotional state impede your ability to comprehend the other party?

Most probably is the answer, and this is because our emotions can 'interfere' with our cognitive ability to seek the truth behind the communication.

In fact we are far more likely to misinterpret communication when we are in an emotional state of mind.

Most of my clients have learned the secret to mastering their emotions, which means that they have also learned how to remove the interference that might otherwise provoke their perceptual bias.

If you would like to learn 5 top tips on self mastery then comment below.

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Hello this is LIFE calling and I want my freedom b

Hello this is LIFE calling and I want my freedom back.

Stop putting your life on hold!

It’s been a strange year and yet we listen to the cautionary restrictions put in place by the government and adhere willingly for the ‘safety’ of others.

When is the right time to accept life with corona virus and get ourselves moving again?

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It's official! Neuroscience confirms that happines

It's official! Neuroscience confirms that happiness is a choice.

Most of us are in pursuit of happiness and we will spend the majority of our lives searching for it in the wrong places.

Happiness is an inside out job, an introspective journey that is a state of being rather than a destination. It is the consistent patterns of thought attaining to the emotional state of happiness.

Question do you have to be successful to be happy or do you have to be happy to be successful?

Are you happy with your life right now?
1) Yes
2) No

If you're not happy with life, what needs to change in order for you the become happy?

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Influence is something very under rated and looked

Influence is something very under rated and looked over most of the time but it is essential that we understand the impact that we have on those around us.

Last night we saw a formidable Bayern Munich side beat an apprehensive PSG side to become the champions of Europe for the 11th time.

Although Pep left Bayern in 2016 the style in which they played last night under Hans Flick was very reminiscent of the Pep had them playing, four years on.

The mediocracy of PSG could be argued to be a collective under par performance but unless I was watching a different game, it could be down to the attitude of just one man - Neymar.

For me, his ego and particularly in the last 20 minute of the game is what cost them, and the missed chances of Mbappe. His inability to work for the good of the collective and demonstrate leadership meant that he set out to be the hero of then hour and prove to the world why he moved to PSG from Barca.

We must be more mindful of the shadow that we cast on those around us and those that we can influence for the better or worse.

If we're feeling in a low mood and we moan to those around us that level of negativity will be absorbed at a subconscious level, without us being aware of it.

Instead if you are around people, here some to tips to making being a positive influence on those that you come in to contact with today.

1) Ask yourself if what you are saying is TRUE or just your opinion?
2) Ask yourself if it is necessary that you share this knowledge bomb with others?
3) Ask yourself if it is kind and will it improve their day?

If what you're about to say doesn't pass those three questions then keep it to yourself, unless you're in a coaching/counselling session. Want to talk to a professional?

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"Words and language can change the world" Robin Wi

"Words and language can change the world" Robin Williams - Dead Poets Society.

The crux of the matter is actually that there is a lot of truth in that statement.

Most disagreements in the world are a direct result of miscommunication and misunderstanding.

We are the custodian of the message until the other party receives it as we intended it.

Especially in today's society where people are scared to speak freely in the fear of offending someone somewhere in the world.

Have we tolerated this political correctness too much that we have weakened our ability to speak up?

The language that we use with ourselves is more important than the words that we use with others because that has a direct impact on our self esteem.

If you could learn to be more influential by improving your argument rather than raising your voice, would you investing yourself?

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"We must accept finite disappointment but never lo

"We must accept finite disappointment but never lose infinite hope" - Martin L King

The 1% club is known as the most successful people in the world, as it is suggested that 90% of the worlds wealth, is held by 1% of the population.

The most successful people all have the same traits in common and one of them is their unwavering faith in their own abilities.

In their personal lives, they adopt a tenacity that endures their desire quit and their drive is often described as obsession.

Yet in business, we often hear terminology of failing fast, cutting our losses and negative ROI.

The most successful people in the world, attribute their success to being persistent and to continue to take daily action toward's your dreams and goals.

Napoleon Hill's 4 top tips on Persistence (chapter 9 in his infamous book Think and Grow Rich)

1) Patience and persistence are the crowning qualities of self-confident champions.

1) A definite purpose backed by a burning desire for its fulfilment.

2) A definite plan, expressed in continuous action.

3) A mind closed tightly against all negative and discouraging influences, including negative suggestions of relatives, friends and acquaintances.

4) A friendly alliance with one or more person who will encourage you to follow through with both plan and purpose.

According to Bev James author of "Do it, or Ditch it" Every successful achievement in life begins with a positive thought and a conscious decision. Surely then, we agree that knowing WHEN to give up is just as important as staying the course.

"Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence" - Helen Keller

If you could learn how to make those decisions in your personal life and your business, would you grab it with both hands or simply skim over it?

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If you are waiting patiently for the political lea

If you are waiting patiently for the political leaders to lead us out of this apocalypse and blindly believe that they have our best interests at heart, you will be bitterly disappointed when you aren't able to put food on the table.

The sad fact is that we have to do the things that we don't always want to do, in order to be the difference in our own world.

We are accountable to ourselves, providing for families and loved ones, and if you are believer - God.

When we are being forced to make decisions that may put us out of our homes, leave us hungry and poverty stricken, we have to make some tough decisions.

When we are staring down the barrel and we are unable to negotiate with life, we must do the things that perhaps others aren't able to do or not willing to do for the sake of our survival.

There are three types of people in a crisis:
1) those that make a stand and fight
2) those that run for the hills to save themselves
3) those that freeze and turn the other way

Churchill famously said "you cannot negotiate with a tiger when your head is in it's mouth"

If you are looking for someone to stand up and demonstrate stoicism and no one is stepping up, look in the mirror and ask what can I do.

Which one are you and who do you need to become when your survival threshold is crossed - David Goggin's states that we should always be battle ready, are you?

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Having taken a few days away from the media for so

Having taken a few days away from the media for some much needed head space and thinking time, I can share with you some of the wisdom that manifested during my solitude.

We get so caught up in the drama's that life throws at us and whether we share it on social media, keep it to ourselves or simply bury our heads in an attempt to ignore it.

The one thing that is crystal is that the more that we try and control our lives and without accepting what is happening, is like trying to swim up stream during a typhoon.

“Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times.” The quote, from the author G. Michael Hopf

The fact is that life isn't fair and believing that hardworking is the only ingredient to success will only serve to disappoint.

So what are the key ingredients?

Desire, dedication, drive and sacrifice are the price of success, of a successful relationship, achieving your dreams.

Controlling our emotions and crafting our thoughts are the habitual price that we have to make on a daily basis.

David Goggins says "we should always be battle ready" he wasn't referring to go against the world but rather himself. that is where the greatest of battles are won and lost "In our own minds"

Everyone comes to a point in their lives where they have had enough and want to quit, and it's what you do in that moment that determines who you are, and who you will become!

Life doesn't care what you did yesterday, it's asking what have you done today to better yourself?

"Everyone has the ability to come from nothing to become something" (Goggins) are you willing to pay the price because life is still asking!

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Although our past shapes us, it doesn't define who

Although our past shapes us, it doesn't define who we become!

The future is still yet to be written and better still, we get to choose the next chapter in our lives.

Starting today, let's not dwell on what has gone but appreciate what still remains, and look forward with excitement on what is coming next.

These are uncertain times, and we seek comfort in locating the certainty by means of controlling the situation.

Like the headlights in our cars on a dark road with limited street lighting, we can only see about a hundred yards in front of us, and we have to use our minds eye to anticipate what hazards may or mat not appear before us.

Sometimes we need someone to help us navigate the uncertainty and hold us accountable to the strategies of life.

Mindset isn't everything - it is the only thing!

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"I've always dealt with everything on my own" is a

"I've always dealt with everything on my own" is a common phrase that I hear from clients that portray strength on the outside but really craving intimacy.

it is in our nature to protect ourselves using a defensive mechanism to protect our ego, which means that we often portray a persona that is the complete opposite of how really feel inside, so as not to expose our vulnerability to the world because we believe that it is a sign of weakness.

The truth is that it takes strength to be our truly authentic selves and the weakness is living incongruently to our true self.

Ask yourself are you a different person in certain circumstances such as work and home? or are you that same person that is truly to your values and comfortable in your own skin?

Most social anxiety is formed as a result of the above. The fear of being rejected and judged for who you really are, and in most cases this belief has been fortified by one experience and by one particular person in your past.

Reach out and stop the suffering that you feel when in social gatherings, and get in touch if you want to take back control of your life.

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“Everything can be taken from a man but one thin

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.” - Viktor E Frankl

So how do you choose your attitude?

Neuroscience tells us that every 90 seconds we get to choose our emotional state of mind that impacts our attitude.

Neuroscience also tells us that our thoughts have the power to influence our emotional state, which in turn influences our attitude.

Choosing how we think requires us to be cognisant of our language, environment and what we tolerate.

Which one of of these do you need help with?

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The next time you compare your life with someone e

The next time you compare your life with someone else's, ask yourself what price have they had to pay to get it.

Social media is littered with 'best images' portraying that life is is amazing and effortless.

Life doesn't distinguish between status when it comes to dishing our adversity. In fact some of the most successful people that we know have endured some of the harshest of realities but the difference is they 'cry in private'

The price of reaching our potential is made through the accumulations of the daily decisions that we make, the dedication to maintain the momentum and the discipline to stay the course.

We can't negotiate with life when it comes to paying the price, nor will life offer any discounts in the way of short cuts.

We have to be prepared to put in the hard yards, pay the price in blood, sweat and tears in some cases.

The price is the price! Unless you're willing to pay whatever the price that life is demanding from you, you will always be found wanting.

What price are you willing to pay for the life that you dream about?

A dream will always be a dream unless we make apply action to it, adapt our thoughts accordingly and make the decisions that will take us one step closer each day.

What help do you need to make your dreams happen?

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Find something that you’d die for AND then live

Find something that you’d die for AND then live for it every single day!

Simon Syneck’s book find your WHY, is a great read and may just help.

Losing our purpose life can lead us to low moods or depression.

Rediscovering your purpose is so liberating and powerful, just knowing that each step takes you closer to your dreams and aspirations.

Do you want to know how?

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Trust is one of those attributes that can take a l

Trust is one of those attributes that can take a life time to build but it and yet can be broken in an instant.

When a client tells me that someone has broken the trust that they have placed on someone else, it is difficult to accept that it is more of a reflection on the person that breached that trust rather than on yourself.

It doesn't mean that you should stop trusting people but it does mean that you might become more wary as a result.

The trust that I'm referring to though in this instance is the trust that we place in ourselves.

How many times have you promised yourself that you would do something only to give up at the first sign of adversity.

How many times have you permitted someone to knock your self confidence or even worse self sabotage the confidence that you have placed on your self?

The secret is to calm your mind and without giving yourself a way out, and yet use these words "I might quit but not just now" instead of "I can't do it". Instead of asking "why is this happening to me?" ask instead "what can I learn from this?" and "what would I have done differently?"

The more you believed in yourself, the more you learn to trust yourself. The more you trust yourself, the less you compare yourself to others = more confidence, security, improved self esteem and happiness.

You have to be prepared to go to war with yourself because unless you are prepared to do what it takes to succeed, you will almost always underachieve.

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Sometimes the most courageous conversations happen

Sometimes the most courageous conversations happen in our own minds. It's the security of knowing that only you can hear your own thoughts BUT remember that we are always communicating even when we are not communicating.

Our thoughts and emotions leak out of our bodies, communicating our deepest fears through our actions and behaviours.

The way we speak to ourselves, is hugely important when it comes to our self esteem and confidence.

On the flip side, we often avoid those difficult conversations with loved ones and those closest to us, as to avoid conflict and feeling uncomfortable.

This of course is like kicking a pebble up the street. You will more than likely encounter the same pebble 100 years up, where you will have the opportunity make the same decision.

What we tolerate from others and ourselves, impacts our self worth and ultimately our happiness. Set your own boundaries, tolerate only what you want to and remember that life is too short to drink poor wine, or be unhappy.

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Where there’s a will there’s always a way, rig

Where there’s a will there’s always a way, right?

How are you staying in shape - count down to the gyms opening again 💯 hooray 😀

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The uncertainty of this particular time is leading

The uncertainty of this particular time is leading people to depressive thoughts and actions.

What we must remember is that this, like everything in life is only temporary.

Our heart ache, our pain, our happiness and all of our emotions are simply short term.

We prolong the emotional experiences by giving that thought process more energy.

The emotional thought process take approximately 90 seconds, which means that we get to choose how we feel every 90 seconds.

The secret to doing that is through habitual training of the mind in order to re wire (define neural pathways) and make this part of our daily routine.

Try "reframing" your thoughts to help you shift your current emotional state and ask these questions:
What am I distorting/deleting or generalising?
What can I learn from this situation?
What part did I play in contributing to the situation?

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"It's easier to ask forgiveness than it is to get

"It's easier to ask forgiveness than it is to get permission" Rear Admiral Grace Murray Hopper.

Procrastination and over think are the biggest killers of dreams, and the secret to getting ahead is getting started!

After just completing an interview with 3 x's Olympic Athlete Goldie Sayers, her takeaways are evidently based in the healthy daily habits and disciplined approach that she applies across all areas of her life.

Making the leap from successful athlete to property tycoon, she describes her transition in to "retirement" from sport.

Making a decision and then sticking by that decision and learning what you can from the process, seeking out a mentor, a coach and those that have trodden that path before her are all part of her achievement strategy.

She places the most valuable transferable skill on her 'mindset'

What is the shortfall of your mindset that is consistently preventing you from fulfilling your potential?

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